Reality does not wait for your consent. It moves. Events occur. Situations change. People leave. Things end. Things you did not want arrive. Things you wanted do not. Reality has no investment in matching your preferences. It is indifferent to the story you are telling about what should be happening.
The resistance is not an intervention. You cannot stop what is already in motion by refusing to accept it. The resistance is a position you take inside yourself in relation to what is happening. It changes nothing in the external situation. It changes everything in your internal one.
When you resist what is already happening, you split your experience. Part of you is in the situation. Part of you is fighting the situation. That second part is not present. It is arguing with reality. It is holding a position against something that has already occurred. The cost of maintaining that position is enormous and continuous. This is different from changing things.
Changing things requires being in contact with reality as it is. Resistance takes you out of contact. You cannot act clearly from inside a refusal to see what is in front of you. The first step in changing a situation is accepting that the situation is what it is. Not accepting that it is good. Not accepting that it should stay. Accepting that it is real.
The suffering that comes from resistance is not caused by the event. It is caused by the ongoing argument with the event. The event happened once. The argument continues for as long as you run it.
